A Friend or A "Friend"?

There are friends and then there are "friends". Two different categories for one simple word. Friends are there whenever you need them...to laugh, cry, rant and rave, just to call up and say hi or email, and they'll get back to you as soon as they can...and they'll either make you feel better right away or keep trying until they do. Then there are "friends". Everything seems fine until you can't meet them or when you do, expectations were so high and the experience didn't meet what you expected, so you never hear from them again. There's also the "friends" that go by looks alone, and if you're not what built up in their mind, they drop you like a bad habit. Real friends can get around that...they can see who you really are inside, and not the superficial look on the outside. A real friend can get made up with you, or watch you get made up, watch you break down in tears, eyes get all puffy, makeup runs, hair gets a mess, and they still think you're beautiful. I have friends and "friends". One friend in general saw me both ways, both inside and superficially, but emotions got in the way, and he felt decieved because the "real" me wasn't in a picture, but he felt the "real" me in my words and in his heart. I understand the choice he made, although it does break my heart. On the other hand if he was a friend who had never seen a picture, I don't think the looks would have mattered. But then a "friend" sometimes will also decieve you by saying one thing and as soon as you turn around, they stab you in the back. So what do you have in the end? A friend who "sees" the real you in what you speak, what you write, what you hear in their words, their honesty, and will stick beside you thick or thin, no questions asked. Or would you rather have a friend who says everything you want to hear, will listen, but not understand what you're saying, and drop you in the blink of an eye? Interesting questions, but does anyone have a really clear answer to stop my heart from breaking?